It is tiresome when people (both feminists and antifeminists) pretend that the existence of gender differences proves that these gender differences are not socialized.
Over the course of this article, I will highlight legitimate gender differences which I think are probably social in nature rather than biological. Beauty norms have to be inborn on account of it feels like I have no volitional control over my boner.
It is a very boring prediction of feminist theory that the genders behave differently from each other.
After all, if you divide children into two random groups and tell half of them to be courageous and half of them to be gentle, one half is probably going to be courageous and the other is going to be gentle.
I think that level of violence, libido, probably certain aspects of sexuality such as getting off on narrative versus getting off on visuals, and probably some stuff with emotions are all inherent, biological gender differences.
I am not willing to rule out other differences nor to state that I believe in them.
Of course, all complex behavior has both social and biological elements: for instance, I will argue that women’s lack of interest in casual sex has both a biological and a social component. First, by the time you have your first boner at puberty, you have already experienced more than a decade of environmental influence.
Indeed, many fetishes are obviously environmental in origin, unless one assumes that genes for fetishes for rubber, stuffed animals, and Catholic schoolgirls lay latent in the genome for tens of thousands of years. But I and my friends all agree who the hottest girls at the bar are. Love poetry was written about the beauty of the “lotus foot,” which was as small as three inches, and the swaying way a woman walked.
I cannot possibly be transitioning because of my autogynephilia, because if I were an autogynephile I would be like “wow, I fetishize having the body parts I was born with, this is incredibly convenient! What I hope to show is that even if you assume that Heartiste is totally right about his practical advice– if you should neg, qualify, do takeaways, send women ‘gay’ as a response to their text messages, and all the rest– his conclusions about how the dating marketplace works simply do not follow.
In addition, I do actually think that sex differences exist.
Second, environmental influence can make things happen that feel like you can’t control them.
Music sounds good to you because you’ve learned how to listen to it (just think about your mom saying “that’s just noise!